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Lucy.


 Friday
 

WHAT WOULD YOU DO?

I have a minor dilema...

A few times in the beginning of my blog, I have mentioned my ex-fiance aka The Stalker. We were together for seven years. We never set a wedding date, I guess deep down inside I/we knew better...

In his defense, he was a great guy to me and very generous. He was in the entertainment business which had a lot of perks. Concerts, back stage passes, limos, the best restaurants...I actually hung out with a few rock stars.  It was a lot of fun but deep down inside I didn't want to party anymore and wanted to settle down, get married and have another baby...I knew he didn't fit this bill.

For seven years, people in town told me he did cocaine. I never saw any evidence of it.  I told him right from the beginning that I was very much against drugs and especially cocaine since it ruined my marriage and almost my life in many ways. My ex-husband was a dealer. In retrospect all the signs were there...how did I miss them AGAIN?  He denied the drug abuse.

My ex-husband was arrested right before we got married and as far as I knew he was clean for the five years we were together until he got arrested again one night.

A friend of ours father passed away and we had his wake to go to, but I had a final exam for school so I didn't attend. If I had been with him that night I too would have been arrested (even though I had no idea he had a substantial amount of cocaine on him or that he was involved in it again) and my children would have been taken away. Thus the end of my marriage...without a single hesitation.

Back to my ex-fiance....towards the end of our relationship I found cocaine in my house twice and told him it was over....a few weeks later I met Cuban Husband. Ex-fiance still hadn't moved out of my home...

To make a long story short....I got caught. He flipped out. He wrecked my home.....and was physically abusive & violent towards me.

I got a restraining order against him. He broke it numerous times a day for two whole years. The only reason I did not contact the police was because I felt sorry for him. I knew I had hurt him and felt partially responsible for putting him over the edge. I was all he had and vowed to him I would never hurt him like others had in his life.

Finally after two years of this I had enough and had him arrested. That one arrest turned into three in one week, because he still would not leave me alone.

The abuse for two years is another post. You cannot imagine how it feels to be stalked everyday, all day for two years.

He eventually moved to Florida.

My oldest daughter called me today and said my ex-husband, her father saw my ex-fiance in Home Depot. He is back in NJ and runs a night club...where my ex-husband will be meeting him tonight.

I told my daughter if her father was going to meet up with him please let me know because I have photo albums that belong to him and I feel it is not right to throw them out and prior to today, I had no knowledge of how to get them to him.

This is my question.....for seven years now I still have nightmares about him. However, my conscious is bothering me because of how I hurt him and how this relationship ended.

I would like to put a note in the albums and say just that....I am sorry how it ended. I am very happy and I wish him the same.

Do you think this will open a can of worms? Do you think this will open a window of opportunity to start the harassment again?


I am reposting the Blogging Baby movie without names....please vote for the cutest baby.

At the end of the year, I would like to include the winner in my awards show. For you old timers, you remember I did this last year...handing out awards to bloggers.

Please take the time to view and vote...thank you!

 

Posted by Lucy. at 6:50 PM - 82 Comments   Add a Comment  
 

 Thursday
 

HAPPY BIRTHDAY !

Click their names below to wish them a happy day..


BRONCO FAN

&

HEATHER/KALEIDOSCOPE

Posted by Lucy. at 10:41 AM - 24 Comments   Add a Comment  
 

 WED - How to change your pallette
 

Many people have asked me how to change the background of their blogs:

1 - First you have to find a "background" or "wallpaper" on the internet.  I use GOOGLE to search. 

2 - Save the background in your GALLERY. 

 3 - Go to your GALLERY and click URL under the picture.  You cannot cut and copy this, so you must manually write it down EXACTLY.

4 - Now go to MY ACCOUNT and then PALETTE.

5 - Go to EDIT WORK PALETTE - This will look similiar to what I have posted below.  These are my own settings as far as colors, font and size go.  Take note of where your background url goes....make sure you have everything exact such as:  /...."....*.... etc.

6 - After making changes click SAVE and then COPY WORK PALETTE TO LIVE PALETTE (or view work palette first to see what it will look like)

7 - If you make a mistake, that is okay go back into your PALETTE and  click RESTORE PALETTE TO DEFAULT and this will bring you back to where you started before making any changes to your blog.

I will try to explain what everything is....mostly it is a guessing game.  Have fun and play around with it.

If you changed your background or wallpaper and it doesn't take, go back and check if you copied down the URL correctly.  One little deviation will make it not work correctly....

If you need any help, please ask...

Lucy


/*
Default page settings and background color/image for whole page

Refer to http://palette.blogstream.com/ for help with editing this file

NOTE: If you change your background-color below to a dark color,
be sure to change the sections for "blog comments" or the comments
left on your blog will be hard to see.
*/

BODY {
        font-family: arial, helvetica, geneva, sans-serif;
        background-color: BLACK;

 background-image: url(This  is where you are to manually type in your background URL exactly)

        color: BLACK;
}

/*
Default color of any clickable links in the main page body.
For example, the navigation bar or "Pages:" links at the bottom


A:link { color: WHITE; }
A:visited { color: WHITE; }
A:hover { color: WHITE; }
A:active { color: WHITE; }


These are colors for clickable links that you want to look like regular
text, but still be clickable.  An example is the "My Blog" link in the
navigation bar just above the blog title.  It should look the color of
regular text but be clickable
.


.hiddenLinks A:link { color: BLACK; }
.hiddenLinks A:visited { color: BLACK; }
.hiddenLinks A:hover { color: BLACK; }
.hiddenLinks A:active { color: BLACK; }


Don't worry about these
*/

.formTextarea { width: 100%; height: 120px; }

/*
These are settings for the "bullet lists" in Recent Posts, Blogs I Like
and Archives.  The font settings here overwrite those above and are only
for the items in the lists.  Suggest not playing with the other options.
*/

ul.postList
{
 font-size: 14px;
 line-height: 16px; /* Should be just larger than Font-Size */

        margin-top: 0px;
        margin-bottom: 0px;
        margin-left: 21px;
        margin-right: 0px;

        padding-left: 0px;
        padding-top: 0px;
        padding-bottom: 0px;
        padding-right: 0px;
}

li.postList
{
 padding-bottom: 2px;
}

/*
Set the colors for the blog detail line at bottom of a post


.blog_post_time_color { color: DARKPINK; }
.blog_post_comments_color { color: DARKPINK; font-weight: bold; }
.blog_post_author_color { color: DARKPINK; }
.blog_post_posted_by_color { color: DARKPINK; font-size: 14px; }


Title of your whole blog
*/

.blog_title_text { font-size: 30px; color: WHITE; }

/*
Date of blog post
*/

.blog_post_date_text { font-size: 16px; color: WHITE; }

/*
Blog post title text and background
*/

.blog_post_title_text { font-size: 16px; color: WHITE; font-weight: bold; }
.blog_post_box_header_color { background-color: WHITE; }

/*
"Back to Post" button text


.blog_post_title_back_text { font-size: 13px; }

.blog_post_options_text { font-size: 13px; color: DARKPINK; }

A.blog_post_options_text { color: DARKPINK; }

A.blog_post_posted_by_time_color { color: DARKPINK; font-size: 15px; }
A.blog_post_posted_by_author_color { color: DARKPINK; font-size: 15px; }
A.blog_post_posted_by_comments_color { color: DARKPINK; font-size: 15px; }


Border around post box and header bacground
*/

.blog_post_box_border_color { background-color: BLACK; }

/*
Blog post message background
*/

.blog_post_box_bgd_color
{
 background-color: WHITE;
/*
 background-image: url('');
*/
}

/*
Blog post message text


.blog_post_msg_text { font-size: 16px; color: BLACK; }

.blog_add_comment_link { font-size: 15px; font-weight: bold; }
A.blog_add_comment_link { font-weight: bold; color: BLACK; }


Blog comments fonts and colors
*/

.blog_comment_area
{
 font-size: 15px;
 color: BLACK;

 background-color: WHITE;

/*
 border-style: solid;
 border-width: 1px;
*/

        padding-top: 10px;
        padding-left: 10px;
        padding-right: 10px;
        padding-bottom: 10px;
}

.blog_comment_text { font-size: 16px; color: BLACK; }
.blog_comment_by_text { font-size: 15px; color: BLACK; }
A.blog_comment_by_text { color: BLACK; }

/*
Default colors for the box at the right -
headline, headline text color, and background

*/

.titleBox_title_bgd { background-color: WHITE; }
.titleBox_title_text { font-weight: bold; font-size: 14px; color: BLACK; }
.titleBox_body_bgd
{
 background-color: WHITE;
/*
 background-image: url('');
*/
}

/*
Default font settings for the text in the boxes on the right
*/

.titleBox_body_text
{
 color: BLACK;
 font-family: Arial, Verdana, Helvetica, sans-serif;
 font-size: 14px;
 font-weight: normal;
}

/*
For the clickable links in the boxes


.titleBox_body_text A:link { color: BLACK; }
.titleBox_body_text A:visited { color: BLACK; }
.titleBox_body_text A:hover { color: BLACK; }
.titleBox_body_text A:active { color: BLACK; }


Font styles for specific boxes on the right -
these overwrite the above if needed
*/

.blog_recentposts {  }

.blog_blogsilike {  }

.blog_archives {  }

.blog_aboutme {  }

.blog_sponsor {  }

/*
Navigation Bar Font Colors
To set the colors of the clickable navigation items, edit the
"clickable links" (A:link) section near the top of this file.
*/

.blog_nav_bar
{
 font-size: 14px;
}

 

Posted by Lucy. at 7:00 PM - 26 Comments   Add a Comment  
 

 Tuesday
 

Still not feeling well but couldn't go without posting two birthdays .... click their names below to wish them a happy day !

 ASHLEY

&

 MACKENZIE

 

Get your own Free Falling Objects at 123mycodes.com
Posted by Lucy. at 11:26 AM - 20 Comments   Add a Comment  
 

 Monday
 

Hey everyone.....I have severe allergies and won't be blogging today but I will do The Blogger Inquirer and a new book club selection authored by one of our bloggers as well during the week.

HAPPY MONDAY!

Posted by Lucy. at 4:58 PM - 42 Comments   Add a Comment  
 
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